Previously on JOYful Musings
Embracing the Unexpected - Part DeuxMarch 31, 2016
Last month I shared with you the challenging situation that I and many family members had been experiencing and what I was undergoing in my quest to move through it all with a greater understanding and awareness as the whole thing has been quite unlike any previous life event.
I can tell you that at times many things have been quite intense, stressful and unbelievable as I would never have imagined that we would have to deal with what has been happening. But then, who among us can ever say that they would know what to presume or how they would respond to the unexpected when it sneaks up and taps you on the shoulder and is then firmly planted within inches of your face, staring you down with a cold determination to grab your undivided attention?
About a week and a half ago on a Sunday evening after a particularly unsettling few days, I was relaxing with my husband as we watched one of our favorite TV programs. At the end of the show, two of the characters were both faced with extremely difficult crossroads in their lives. Each was envisioning the very challenging and arduous process of how to best handle their individual emotions and circumstances. The show's conclusion left me in a precarious and surprising position of feeling truly raw and vulnerable to my own deep-seated, and as it turns out, very intense emotions that were ready and waiting for the opportunity to burst forth, spilling out like a powerful tsunami whose time had come to flood the seashore!
I broke down trembling and shaking while sobbing uncontrollably in such a prevailing and forceful way, the likes of which I'd never before experienced. Deep, painful, guttural wails that broke me open and ripped out what felt like my entire insides, were now exposed to the harsh reality of being bare and visible for my very personal scrutiny and consideration. There was an image that immediately came to the forefront in my mind as I was weeping, along with a very strong and specific emotion.
I did not connect the dots to the enormous significance of this very dramatic incident until a week later after a counseling session with all my siblings and a wonderful therapist who specializes in family matters. But, boy oh boy, was it a big one that made complete sense to me after my "aha" moment. And I was actually quite happy and grateful to feel that I'd not only survived going through this ring of fire, but that I came out the other side with a profound awareness and a strong sense that I'd finally let go of something so deep, it left me with a knowing that I could finally lay the whole issue to rest in peace, at last. Hallelujah, hallelujah!!
Everyone I have talked with who has gone through this particular life experience plus all the books and online information I've consulted all say that when children of aging parents are challenged with the decline or the end of their loved ones lives, the personal, unresolved issues from childhood of the siblings will most undoubtedly rear their "ugly" heads in order to be seen, giving them the perfect opportunity to pay attention to what needs to be healed. And one can is always free to choose, if they wish, to face their issue(s). If not, the issues will appear once more at some point in time when they are ready to get down to work and deal with what is there for them to examine and resolve one way or another.
As we continue on throughout this process, which is unique and immensely personal for the individuals within a family, I have found myself being given information, support, inspiration, loving care and more from many non-physical sources, family, friends and earth angels among us. I still often have moments of overwhelming doubt and confusion while my patience is being tested alongside my faith and trust that all is as it should be and things are leading each of us on our own unique paths to where we need to be in the scheme of it all.
My very kind and knowledgeable chiropractor, who always takes such good care of helping me to get back to a place of alignment and balance, told me last week that no one can ever know what to expect or prepare for these powerful and often traumatic life events. But when they happen, we can then do our best to do what needs to be done to heal, repair and support ourselves fully - body, mind and spirit.
Here are some of the things that have come to me recently as gentle reminders of that which I can do to best take care of me during this time. During my daily ritual of giving myself time first thing in the morning to connect with Source through prayer, meditation and relaxation, I have been listening, reading and watching inspirational and insightful audios, books and programs that have been a huge help to me in getting back on track. One of them spoke about the powerful and dynamic use of "I am" statements. It made me realize that I have not been as mindful lately in paying attention to the words I am sending out to the universe with phrases such as, "I am tired. This is exhausting" or "I am so frustrated. These insurance people really don't seem to care". "I don't know how I am going to get through this."
And of course, we will all have our challenging moments and trying times, which is so perfectly human and natural. Believe me, I have been on the edge of the ledge quite often in the last few weeks. But I seem to always be guided back to what I really do know and believe in my heart to be true for me. The more we are able to catch ourselves and then use statements which are empowering, uplifting, supportive and nourishing - the more we are then able to call upon the forces of heaven to bring us the help we so need and desire. It's like sending out an invitation for more of whatever we are lamenting about or empowering ourselves with - by using the sheer choice of our words. "I am determined to find a solution." "I am confident. I trust that I can find the strength to get this done with patience, love and endurance." "I am choosing to keep the faith that all is working out for the highest good for all."
Another simple but powerful tool that we've all heard about for years and works so well is to stop and count our blessings. Making a mental or written list of what we are grateful for in our lives, from acknowledging that we are alive to see yet another day to anything and everything that is a gift to us in any way can be included in our list of appreciations. I have also been including the proclamation of "I'm so very blessed. Things could be so much worse. There is always a gift or the opportunity for a higher awareness in every circumstance." Just contemplating that simple understanding can often make our gratitude feel and become so much deeper when we really connect to that awareness.
My last thought about finding my way back to the light, which for me is my connection to Source, is to begin each day with positive expectation and the reminder to "trust the process". Those words are a cue for me to surrender and have faith that the universe knows far better than I how to plan, orchestrate and manifest, bringing things together for the very best and highest outcomes in any and every situation.
It's a complete and utter knowing that all which I've sent out to the universe in the form of my goals, desires or needs is always heard and that I can let go with no attachment to outcome (how or when it shows up), trusting that it will all come about in the right time. That I've come to know for sure.
So, my JOYful friends, the journey continues as I, and so many of us, do our very best to carry on as we embrace the unexpected with a sense of peace, ease, grace and love ... whenever possible!
Embracing the Unexpected - Part Deux
Tuesday, April 5th, 2016
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Quotes to Ponder
Let me encourage you to get up every day and focus on what you do have in life. Be thankful for the blessings of the little things, even when you don't get what you expect.
All will be well in the end. So just remember if all is not well then it's not the end.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.
...as we learn to continue on in embracing the unexpected, we are paving the way for a greater understanding and a more peaceful acceptance of what is ... always a good thing!
Mark your calendar for my next teleseminar, Tuesday, April 5th, 2016 at 5:30 PM (PST) and join me for a JOYful evening filled with inspiration, information and more ... woo-hoo!
May each day bring you more JOY, unexpected and happy surprises and...
...the next step for Livin' in the FUN Zone!